It's a great day! The birds are chirping. The weather is spectacular. Your significant other is as wonderful in your eyes as they've ever been. And you both have the weekend all to yourselves. Seems like your lucky day. Even your horoscope says so. Why not check to see if there are any replies to the message you posted-letting others know you're available this weekend. And what do you find? A couple that is willing to meet you both….TONIGHT! But where oh where will the extra curricular activities take place? They've replied: “Would definitely love to meet you…can you host?” Damn, your previous postings were usually met with no replies, so you didn't quite plan for the positive response. Now what do you do? What needs to be considered? Why can't they host?-- You ask. Well, you've got something thinking to do.
Not everyone in the lifestyle actually spends exorbitant time thinking about how their play time session will pan out. Though, it is a good idea to do so from time to time. Some of us are “free for alls” who just go with the flow, so to speak-based on our living arrangements or the ability to finance our pleasure domains at a whim. But for some, money, family, and timing can inhibit our ability to fully realize our experiences when they are not planned carefully and in advance.
BUT WHAT ABOUT THE KIDS?.....
Unlike what is perceived about those in the lifestyle by the “vanilla conservatives ”, as being an irresponsible bunch of heathens, most of us are just everyday normal people with families, mortgages, and nosy neighbors, just like everyone else. We tend to care about our privacy and to protect our children from our own adult lifestyle endeavors and wouldn't want to mix the two-even if they are at grandma's for the weekend.
For others, this may not be a problem. “ Kids out of the way, so the adults can play ” is a welcoming proposition and should certainly not to be confused with being irresponsible. It's just a matter of personal choice between consulting adults. But if you do choose to host when the kids are absent-here are some little words of advice.
First, make sure you tell your guests that you do have children and to make sure they ARE at grandma's two states away. Last thing you want is to be in full “Play” mode when one of your kids walks in wearing Spiderman pajamas asking: “What are they doing to mommy?” And you have to explain to your kids that they were just dreaming the next morning. Good luck trying that with a twelve year old. (Has happened)

Also, warn your guests about any pets you might have. An out of control hair ball event caused by your cat can cause a quick exit—and your dog humping your guest's leg while you freshen up-is not the doggy style they expected. So be courteous and aware that all people may not take too kind to the “other” members of your family. Discussing the pets you have is also very important as many people have extreme allergies. For instance Lola is deathly allergic to cats and their dander and there is nothing that brings the libido to a halt than a swollen face, watery eyes and the inability to breathe. Needless to say, NOT SEXY.

LISTEN.
Consider getting to know the couple you'd like to play with a little better, before inviting them back to your place. This can be a tremendous way to find out what they like and what they don't like-helping you to prepare yourselves as great hosts. When you host, your guest should feel like the “red carpet” has been rolled out for them. Making your guest feel special, like picking up their favorite red wine or preparing a dish that they barely mentioned during your conversation is sexy foreplay! It shows that you have paid attention to detail and are considerate and passionate about making people feel good. Don't skimp on this… it's just good hospitality.

SNOOPERS

Hey, we've all done it. People will excuse themselves to use your bathroom and WILL check to see just what's in THAT medicine cabinet. Aside from making sure your bathroom is clean enough to eat in-remember to put away those creams and ointments that you don't really want to explain away. Having your guests suddenly come down with the flu after a quick bathroom visit is a good indication that you forgot. Which leads us to the obvious next suggestion. Make sure you don't need to use creams and ointments by being in good health. Yet, if you're in need of prescribed meds on this night. Reschedule your playtime. Please!!!!!!!

STAY OR GO

Assuming you've enjoyed a fun filled session with your good friends-it's late and now you're confronted with the question: “ Should we invite them to stay the night, or kindly urge them to get the hell up out of here? ” This needs to be established between you and yours BEFORE hand as to avoid one of you unexpectedly handing out the extra toothbrushes and robes. Hey some of us may be on borrowed time, so 4am is your cut off hour. For others, the consideration of a full night stay may not occur until you've crossed that bridge based on the tremendous time you had. Some of us can afford to just go with the flow and some can't. For those who can….preparation is key. Either way make certain both you and your spouse are on the same page prior to your guest's arrival.
RULES- WHAT RULES?

Some are fortunate to always have the ability to host and love doing so. Don't feel bad if you can't. It's about being honest and sharing fun times whenever and wherever the opportunity presents itself. Hopefully you seek to establish great friendships, which lead to great times. Once you all feel comfortable with one another-you all can establish your own rules of engagement. Just don't forget that respect, thoughtfulness, cleanliness, and creative ideas, go a long way in establishing yourselves as good hosts. We hope this little bit of fun advice helps some of you in your pursuit in becoming the host with the most.

Our friends Lola & Devon are the owners of:
HedoOnline.com

Just as any single female, male, couple, or any other combination in search of some deserving adult friendships, you've perused the reviews and surfed the net like Kelly Slater and decided: “Alright, it's time to put up a profile.” Sounds easy enough- right? Faithfully you check your profile's inbox yet still- nothing. Nada. Zilch. You religiously keep yourself ‘logged in' but still- nothing. So, what happened? Before deleting your profile and throwing in the towel, here are a couple of profile pointers to help you make the most of your online experience.
TRIAL vs. PAID
Many sites allow a trial membership, which is a great marketing ploy. Trial memberships allow you to get a ‘taste' of the site usually with several restrictions. The downside of a trial membership is that if you're serious about meeting and connecting with other members it's possible you may not until you pull out the plastic and become a paid member. Being a member at one time or another on numerous sites, it became apparent that many paid members ‘turn off' their profiles to “block” trial members simply to avoid the curious and uncertain. Let's face it- we all join for the same purpose- to meet and connect. Upgrading to a paid membership not only grants you full access to the sites functions but it also shows that you are serious about your intentions- or at least in the eyes of the other members. :)
PICTURES
They say a picture says a million words- and damn it who ever ‘they' are, knew what the hell they were talking about. First and foremost- you certainly do not need to be a super model. Most of the population isn't, so relax. Yet, if the picture you post is from your ‘rookie' years, 15 years ago or even 15 pounds ago- you're setting yourself up for some disappointing encounters. No one wants to walk into a situation where the other person says, “You don't look like your profile.” The disappointment is then revealed on their face- and now you're on the receiving end of a predictable let down. Not cool.
So, with that said- your profile pictures should represent you. Who you are today and what you look like. Many people are not comfortable posting facial pictures on the inter-net, which is totally understandable. Although you should know if you do not have face pictures on your profile you'll be asked often for them. Many sites allow you to post ‘private picture galleries' where you can control who has access to view them. Private galleries are the perfect place to keep facial pictures if you're concerned about others seeing your face.
Clear pictures are also key. No one really wants to try and decipher what you may look like from that fuzzy cell phone picture. Being in the age of digital photography and with easy to use editing software programs like iPhoto-taking pictures and uploading them can be done with ease. You also don't have the hassle of long waits on printing or wasted film.
Think about being a little creative with that digital camera as well. We're not talking about close ups of genitalia- we're talking about changes of lighting, scenery etc. Speaking of scenery, be mindful where you are taking your photos. Nothing is a bigger turn off than seeing a sink full of dirty dishes or a cluttered room with dirty gym socks in the background. Get creative and artsy with your flicks. Profiles with pictures get far more traffic than those that don't. Besides, for some, picture taking is great foreplay.
PROFILE CONTENT
For Pete's sake say something! Far too often people say the same things over and over again. “We are fun, happy loving couple- blah blah blah” Or a profile will have simple 2 word answers. So, don't sound ‘manufactured' or like a caveman. Tell a little about yourself. You don't have to write a book or divulge your social security number. Just give you reader a glimpse of who you are, your personality, your interest and most importantly what you're looking for. Think of what you write as your ‘advertisement'.
Remember your profile is just that: YOUR PROFILE. This is what others see to decide if they would like to chat with you further and possibly connect. Put your best foot forward. Chances are, not only are you paying for your membership, you and everyone else on the site are there for the same purpose- to meet each other. With a little time, minimal effort and a lot of creativity you'll be well on your way to making some great connections.
Be Well. Be You.
Our friends Lola & Devon are the owners of:
HedoOnline.com
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